Are there any wholesome sweet girls out there anymore?

IMG_5778Sooooooo…..I have a lot and I mean a LOT of male friends and we talk all the time about different things and we got together to discuss dating the other night. I was so surprised at the comments they made.

So, I thought I would blog about it.

1. They all say ~ girls now-a-days do not like you to be a gentleman , they actually give them weird looks if they call a girl to ask her out, or just stand up for her at the table, etc. They would love to be polite gentlemen, but women don’t like it anymore.

2. They say the only way they have ever gotten a girl to go out with them is to go in groups and just say something like: “Hey, wanna hang out sometime?”

3. The girls they meet are so jaded and bitter, they feel like they have lost the possibility of being in a true honest relationship with someone before they even start.

4. Girls who smoke are a HUGE turn off ~ kissing a smoker is like licking an ashtray. YUK!

5. They are all longing for a real Christian wholesome woman, who takes care of herself, not a model, but clean and sweet. Looks are just a perk, for they really want someone who is kind and intelligent. Not so smart she is a know-it-all but someone you may enjoy discussing all sorts of topics with.

6. They are so tired of women acting like they like them then dropping off the face of the earth. No communication and no breaking up. (Just plain chicken and rudeness)

7. They would prefer women to be politely blunt, and just tell them when they approach her and she isn’t interested, something like: “Thank you so much for being interested in me ~ but honestly I am just not that attracted to you in that way….” Be nice but tell the truth. No man likes a liar or a cheat.

8. They even said they can handle a girl with some baggage, not a psycho, but they are willing to help her heal from all the pain of past relationships and love her through it all. (WOW! These are great men)

There are so many men who are what I would call; “Diamonds in the rough.” But who are looking for just a sweet Christian girl. Clean and neat, sweet and nice, pretty and decent. These men are not models from magazines, but they have a fire in them that is wanting to find a real sweet woman they can throw their heart’s into and love forever and ever. They are not ugly and perhaps somewhat a little over weight, but not all are. Some are actually buff. They come from all walks of economic stratus and are truly good faithful men. Christian brothers who are looking for true love and faithfulness.

What does this say about all the women out there looking for love?

Are we too picky? Too Biter? Too scared?

Do we even know a nice romantic polite man when we see one?

Are we so abused and neglected that we can’t even receive love from a nice man anymore?

These men will not grope you on the first date and may actually take a long time to get to know you, cause they are serious about commitment when they find the right girl.

Start being kind and polite and take time to see the man probably sitting right next to you on the church pew. Hoping you will notice him. He is not a wolf and he will not bait you for his own selfish behaviorial  exercises (SEX). These men are genuine and will make some woman the light of their lives.

Just a thought…..

The unknown date


Don’t Get Discouraged!

Have you ever had a date that you thought went pretty well. Ok, Not perfect, but well enough to think that they may ask you out again at some point, never to hear from them again?

Yep, I know you have.

It seems we have lost the art of politeness and etiquette in our society.

Ok, he wasn’t that great and actually had been in a car wreck at age 17 and had disfigured his face and ear. I know it was hard to get over that one. So I went to lunch with him at one of my favorite pizza places. We met there.

I was dressed in a really cute bright orange skirt and a bright yellow top. By all standards I was looking great!

He came in blue jeans and a t-shirt. Ok, that would have been fine, cause it was a lunch date, but he also looked like he had not shaved in 5 days and he wasn’t growing a beard for he also had a go tee. Ugggh!

You know if a man doesn’t even try on a first date it will only get more sloppy later. Everyone, who really cares, at least showers and shaves for a first date. First impressions still do matter after all.

So we have a polite and fun lunch, not really hitting it off and not having a bad time either.

But then, after he says I will call you later tonight, and after he has already called you almost every day for weeks, he is a no show!

Yep, I never heard from him again.


Yes, maybe it matters that I didn’t really find him my type, but I think I faked it enough to be polite and to warrant another call. Even if it was to say no thank you sugar…

The funny thing is ,I was talking to my other friend about how to let him down easily cause I just knew he would call and how he was really in to me.

So what happened?

Hmmm? Perhaps he was upset when he went to kiss me, on a first date, and I turned my cheek to him ~ Possible but not probable.

Maybe it was the funny but rude comment I made about investing in stocks, something I like to do, when I said:

“If you can’t run with the big dogs – stay on the porch!” LOL!

Probably not, for he laughed.

Or maybe he was upset when I said I didn’t really like all the prostitutes, and crime, etc that casinos brought to a town when they came. Following a previous conversation about his love of in-room jacuzzis while he stayed there and how much fun sex in the tub was. HA!

Or maybe I talked too much about my faith ~ always a popular man chaser away if he is just after sex ~ Funny too.

BUT ~ I choose to tell myself this: “THANK GOD!

I have been praying God would just chase away all the perpetrators and false men who pursue me and well, I think this one went running. Or maybe he just saw that I was such a great catch that he was WAY out of his league.

Yes, those last two sound good to me and actually logical, according to my good friends who continually encourage me in this new life of dating again after a long term marriage breakup.

Having said all that ~ DON’T BEAT YOURSELVES UP PEEPS!

Most people are rude and self interested. Most people think more of their own interests than those around them. When picking a mate look for the fruit and character more than the outward appearances,even though good looks don’t hurt ~ giggle.

“The fruit of the Spirit is: Faithfulness, goodness, joy, peace, love, long-suffering, faith, patience, kindness, and the like, against such there is no law.” Gal 5:23

Theres no accounting for good taste, politeness and good manners. Wait for the best catch!

Also; be the best person you can be with good etiquette if you want a good person to want you.


the unknown date



Ok, so I feel I need to speak out about bad kissing.

What’s the worst first kiss you have ever had?

Mine has to be the tongue toucher. A man who is kissing you for the first time and who sticks his tongue outside of his lips and touches your lips before you have ever touched lip to lip – yuk!

It’s just gross!

My gut reaction is to push back back peddling with both hands.

Who in their right mind kisses like that?
And if you have asked them if they are a good kisser – all men think they are.

Please fellas, read up on kissing before you go out on a first date and gross out anyone.

First kisses should be gentle and only lips.

Later if you have good chemistry then go in slowly, maybe slide your hand behind her neck and gently pull her in and slowly kiss her for a short period of time. Then invite her with your tongue.



Just a thought.
From the unknown date